I am the person who often think about random things. This morning, when I was on my way to the office, I was thinking about the biggest decision that I ever made in my entire life.
Yes, I thought about that while riding my bike. In the middle of heavy traffic.
And I came out with a short list of the biggest decision I’ve made so far, here they are:
1. Going to A Junior High School in Jakarta
Since I wasn’t living in Jakarta (and still not), going to a school in Jakarta was a big deal. It wasn’t just a matter of distance, but it was more of striving to get something with a pretty low probability. At that time, students from outside Jakarta only get 5% place of the total number of students accepted in a school. So I did fight for that one chair in the class.
However, at first my mom didn’t let me do this due to the distance problem (it was around 15km from home), and I was still 12 years old by the time (so she really worried about me getting exhausted). But thanks to my father who convinced her and was really supportive. He was so sure that I can do it all, and I would get a better chance for the next education, and also a broader networking. Aaaaaand it was true! 🙂
Little did I know that this was the first and one of the biggest decision that leads to my long, great journey.
2. Taking an Acceleration Class
Although it was not one of my best decision, but I think it shaped who I am today. You wouldn’t believe me if I tell you that the reason behind it was only a “challenge from a friend”.
When I was still in JHS, I had some senior year friend who eventually got into the cool Senior High School just next to my JHS 😂. One of them said that the school was soooo cool that it has an acceleration class. I was like WHOA! And the entire school knows that the SHS was indeed really cool that it is one of the top SHS in the whole Jakarta.
My friend then challenged me “let’s see if you can get here and graduate at the same year with me!”
Dude, you don’t challenge a girl in puberty! Hahaha she is definitely going to work her azz off to get it :p So I said “challenge accepted“! *put a meme here*
Aaaaaand I got into that cool SHS, PLUS, I also got that acceleration class! *mission accomplished!*
The one thing I didn’t know was, studying in 2 years instead of 3 was not that good either for your brain or your psychology. My classmates was so competitive, and they study so hard everyday like crazy that I felt left far behind. And later I realize that there must be some reason why they make SHS education 3 years long. There must be!
Nonetheless, if I didn’t take that challenge, I wouldn’t meet my friends now 🙂
3. Going to A University in Bandung
It is somehow similar with number one, only that the condition was reversed. In this one, my father didn’t let me go to Bandung while my mom really encourage me to study there. My dad thought I could just go to a university in Jakarta since I also got accepted there (and it was also a government uni, while the one in Bandung is a private uni). But I was so rebellious at that time, I insisted to go to Bandung.
I had a big fight with my father that he didn’t even support me financially for my education as a form of protest. I desperately seek help from my relatives, and luckily I got it from my uncle.
This maybe the big decision that lead me to my current path of life. It all start here. In Bandung I met a lot of good friends, I met some important people in my life, I fell in love and fell out of love. I also get a lot precious and life-changing experiences. I know how it felt to be so broke that you can only eat two donuts for the whole day, and you have to eat it at the peak of your hunger time. I also know how it felt to stop being broke without asking more money to your parents. Yes, you work. You work your ass of and make money to afford living.
Yet you also realize that socializing and having non-academic achievement is importany for your future. So, you work again. You work voluntarily in an organization. And you get paid with the list of experiences in your CV.
You’re young and free and full of energy. Sleep is not your number one priority for this time.
I couldn’t imagine how my life would be so much different if I didn’t go to Bandung. Going to Bandung was my leap of faith.
Living in Bandung has taught me so much that I knew I would always love this city for the rest of my life.
4. Offering Help to My Friend as A Substitute Shop Keeper
I remember that Wednesday noon, when my friend asked me to substitute her as a shop keeper in my Campus’ Cooperative. Yes, I joined as a member too in my Campus’ Cooperative, and Wednesday was not my schedule to be a shop keeper.
I just can’t imagine if I decided not to help my friend, then I wouldn’t have met Bang Nando. He’s one of the most influential people in my life. If it was not because of him, I wouldn’t know CCI, I wouldn’t know the friend whom I hang out with now, I wouldn’t have the experiences that I had now. And there’s just so much I wouldn’t know.
Bang Nando was so kind and silly. And I’m so glad to be his friend.
That was the biggest decision that I have made so long that I didn’t know would lead to my destiny, my life journey.
My life is so amazing right now. If I can turn back time, I wouldn’t change a thing. I would live my live the way I live it. There’s just soooo much thing to be grateful for 🙂